The Wonderful World of Relationships (sorry this is so long D: )

Why are relationships in Highschool such a cycle?

This is how a Highschool relationship works..

• you find someone
• you talk to them for a while
• you start liking each other
• you date...and the first about..4 months are amazing.
• then you break up because all of a sudden your "perfect relationship" is far from perfect.

Nothing can compare to the happiness one feels during the first 4 months of a relationship, and it's because the first 4 months is nothing but pure happiness. Your happy to finally be with the person that you've gotten to know, and to you they seem perfect. Are they perfect? No, not really...which you figure out when month number 5 rolls around...and I think that's the key to a relationship. The key to a relationship would be finding someone who appears perfect to you before you start dating them. Not getting excited and jumping into something that your going to end up regretting. Because that's what happens...you get excited because OH MY GOD somebody likes you! And all of their imperfect qualities, and sometimes major personality traits (that you would normally find annoying as hell) fade away.

I think this is what makes relationships so hard.

I mean...everyone wants somebody. Nobody wants to be alone, even if people like being single, they like the freedom, but I think if someone could have freedom in a relationship, they would take that over the plain freedom any day.

I think people have this huge desire get in the way of what they're trying to do. Because every time someone likes you, that's a window of opportunity for your desire to be fulfilled. So instead of truly getting to know someone you just kind of..half get to know them, and the half you know seems really nice, and better than the last. And then it turns out to be another mistake.

I don't know how it is with guys...but I know that with girls after a certain number of mistakes are made we get afraid of the next guy to start liking us, because then we start with the "What if"..What if he's just like the last? What if I get my heart broken?...What if this is different? What if he's better than the last? and then I think we get into things that we don't want to be into.

All everyone wants is that perfect someone. That's it! but it's so difficult because we let little things get in the way of it.

This is my advice:
Find someone that is perfect to you, even if they have some imperfect qualities, that aren't that big of a deal, I think that you should learn to love them because if you can find someone even close to perfect you need to hold onto them forever. Don't let little things get in the way of finding your perfect person. You need to find someone that can bring you up when your at your all time low, you need someone that thinks your all kinds of beautiful even tho you know you look like total shit. Is this easy to find? No way in hell. But I think this is what everyone needs...everyone needs someone that will always be there for them, they need someone that will always love them not matter what. I think that this is so hard to find because people set their standards high because they don't want to settle, but maybe it's not settling. Maybe there's a difference to settling and learning to love something you never thought you could. Maybe your perfect person is right in front of you, and you didn't realize it til now.