Question of the Day

Question #1:

What was the best day of your life? And why? (:

**Make sure you post your answer as a comment on this blog**

Curve Ball

It's weird how much someone can affect your life. When your in the moment and when your not thinking about how much they mean to you, and then it hits you when they leave. And it hurts, its like a blow to the stomach. You know...when your breath gets taken away? I'm not just talking about any person that doesn't mean that much, I'm talking about people that make you smile just by looking at them. People that pick you up when your down, and these people don't have to be boyfriends...most of the time they aren't, most of the time they're just simply friends. It hurts when these people leave and then come back months later, because the reason that they had to leave isn't there anymore, so they come back. And then you have to decide if your going to take them back. I wish people could just take their shoes off and stay in my life for a little while. It seems like a lot of people come in and out of it. 


I wish the people that were going to be in my life wore a little button or something, that way I would know which people I should spend time with, and which people it would be okay to open up to. Because without that button, you don't really know...and you have to trust, and sometimes that trust gets thrown in your face. And it burns.

Life is good at keeping you on your toes. There are very few things in life that don't change. Some friendships don't change, some people are always and will always be there for you. But a lot of people won't, even when you think they will be. So find the people that have always been there for you, and make sure they aren't going any where any time soon. Because when life throws  you another curve ball, your going to need someone to lean on. 

Call Someone

5 Minutes

I think it's really important to live your life like you have no more tomorrows. Who would you call if you only had 5 minutes to live? And what would you tell them?...Maybe you should tell them right now even if you have way more than 5 minutes to live.

Love

I hate it when people say "I love you" when they don't mean it. I know it's hard for people to really know what love is, but I think people throw the word "love" around way too much. Which sucks because when people use it for real...it doesn't have the same impact. "I love you" should be one of the most powerful things you could possibly say to someone, it should take your breath away. It should mean that you would do anything for them and that you just simply cannot function without them. It should come from the bottom of your heart and you should mean it with your heart and soul.  When you tell someone you love them it should really mean a lot, you should have a hard time saying it because it's kind of a big deal. 

It's also really sad when people only realize they love something when they lose it...because once you lose something it might be too late to get it back. I wish people could just realize what they had, and be thankful for what they had because a lot of people don't have that. I mean...if you have someone that means the world to you, if you mean the world to them...and if they would do anything for you. Don't let stupid things get in the way of that. For the love of all things good, remember what you have, and hold onto it forever. Don't let things that won't last forever get in the way of something that could.

I think people today let the stupidest things get in the way of love. Love isn't about appearance. It's about personality and chemistry, appearance is all attraction, not love. It kind of makes me wonder why we even have dating sites. I understand that they are based on "29 dimensions of  compatibility" but...the couples that are coming up on or have already reached their 50th anniversaries didn't need a website..and they seem really happy, after 50 years.


This makes me wonder about our society, why is it all of sudden so hard for people to find their soul mate? Is it because their impatient and want love now. Or maybe everyone is just really picky...and they might strongly consider someone but...oh! wait, yeah..nope I don't like that one little thing that shouldn't even matter. I mean...why have the possibility of being completely happy with someone who's right in front of you who might have 1 imperfect quality when you could go on a dating site and find someone who appears to have no imperfect qualities and they're just as good as the imperfect guy. 

This kind of stuff makes me wish I lived my life when my grandparents did because those people had it right. I think they really understood what love was, it's sad that people in my generation have lost the meaning of it. I hope we find again someday.

Burst of Emotion

Have you ever just been laying in bed at night and you just think of someone, a lot. And all you want to do is talk to them, but you can't for some reason. I hate that.  Or have you ever watched a movie that has to do with love in some sort of way and then thought of someone? It's like this all-of-a-sudden urge to tell the person your thinking of that you care about them, or that you love them. It kind of sucks that people don't feel like that all the time. Wouldn't if be amazing if people felt that burst of emotion all the time? People would always be trying to express to other people how much they care about them, or how much they love them. And even if you try to be like this all the time, you really can't. Because something will happen and you won't be in the mood to tell people how much you care about them. That would be another huge convenience...not having to try and express how much you care about someone. In the beginning it's not that bad, because the other person can grasp the idea of how much you care cause it's not really that much-I mean, you care...but not as much as your going to. Then as the relationship continues (not just boyfriend/girlfriend, just plain friendships are relationships too) it gets harder and harder to express how you feel because sometimes people will put more into the relationship then what they should. Or things will happen and all of a sudden the relationship isn't balanced anymore. 

I think if people always had the urge to tell someone that they cared...and if people could always understand how much people cared about them, and if relationships were always balanced. I think that would be pretty perfect. 

What is Love?

I think it's so messed up how everyone wants love...everybody wants it. I don't know how it is for guys, or how it is for anyone else..but I do know how it is for me. I'm terrified of growing old alone, and I think most people feel the same way. I think it's so crazy what people will do for love when a lot of people don't even know what it is exactly.

Maybe everyone has their own feeling for what love is? I think true love is something that can never die...I know true love never dies because there's proof. What's my proof? My proof is when I see a little old lady and a little old man holding hands walking down the street, or when a little old lady takes care of a little old man. That has to be some form of love.

Maybe that's what makes love so hard to figure out. There are so many different forms of it. For example...
A mother holding her new born baby for 3 straight hours..that's love.
A best friend bringing soup to their sick friend is love.
A little old lady and man holding hands down the street is love.
Staying up all night with someone who is upset just to make sure they're okay is love.
Accepting someones imperfections is love.

Maybe love is going out of your way to make someone else happy, or maybe it's wanting to spend every waking second with someone...forever, and never getting tired of their presence. Maybe it's completely learning who someone is and then wanting to learn things together. Maybe love is the power to pick someone up at their all time low and make them feel incredible.

I thought writing a blog about what love is might help me realize what it is. But I'm still not really sure. All I know is, I hope I find love someday. Because the way I picture it in my head, It seems perfect.

Maybe love is something we can't describe, maybe love is something we can only see and feel.

Here's a Little Heads Up

*As I think of things, or as you tell me things you'd like to know about I'll add them to this blog and re-post it. *


This kinda goes hand in hand with my last post "Girls vs. Boys". This is post is really just for guys, this is a little heads up on what a girl really wants (more or less). This is kind of like a translation dictionary of puzzle things that a girl might say, and I'll tell you what she might be trying to say.

***every girl is different, and all of this depends on the situation. Some of the things I'm saying would be a very bad idea. For example, if you just told a girl you cheated on her and she says tells you to stop talking to her and to leave her the hell alone, stop talking to her and leave her the hell alone. If you guys just got into a stupid fight, then read below***

When a girl says that she feels unloved and/or neglected.
-Then actually act like you give a shit. Here's a little heads up...it doesn't take much to make a girl feel loved, all you have to do is act like you actually care about her. Listen to what she has to say, keep the conversation going, text her every now and then and let her know that your thinking of her, or miss her, or love her. Make plans with her. And then try to keep at least some of these things up.

When a girl gets mad at you, and tells you to stop talking to her.
-Do not stop talking to her. She did just tell you to stop, but don't because this is probably just a test that your about to fail if you listen to her. What she really wants you to do is tell her that your sorry (whether it's your fault or not, say your sorry.) and she wants you to tell her how much you care about her. I'm not really sure how "stop talking to me" translates into this, but it does. Once you do this, I'm 90% sure that the fight will be over.

When a girl says "fine." or "I'm fine".
-She is not fine. She's nowhere close to being fine. Fine is one of the worst things she could say, when a girl says "fine." you did something to piss her off, whether its saying something she didn't like, or doing something that she didn't like you pissed her off, you should do something asap to make everything better. Ask her what's wrong. If she responds to that question with "I'm fine" she doesn't want to talk about then..maybe because other people are around, so ask her later. When it's just you and her and she says "I'm fine" maybe you should tell her that you know she's lying and ask her whats wrong.

When you ask a girl what's wrong and she says "nothing"
-She's Lying. Do not just move on in the conversation. Ask her what's really wrong because you know something is up. Be prepared for some BS answer when you ask her what really is wrong. She might be afraid to tell you what's really wrong, so be ready for anything. Show her that you care about what she has to say, and make sure you show her that you don't want her to be unhappy, be reassuring that what she has to say is important to you.

When a girl says that she "wants space".
-Space, is the last thing she wants. She may want space for like...30 seconds but as soon as you give her what she wants you are the only thing she is thinking about. This is just like the "don't talk to me." thing. It's a test. She wants you to say something witty, and charming, and she does not want space. If you do give her space then she's going to get mad at you for "ignoring her". I know that doesn't make sense but that's what is going to happen. You need to ask her what's wrong, tell her how much you care about, and maybe say something romantic :)


When a girl uses a period when it's not needed, and ends things very short. kind of. like. this.
-She's annoyed or upset, maybe she doesn't wanna talk. Handle this how you handled the "fine" situation and ask her what's wrong.

When a girl is crying
-You better not be the reason she's crying, but if you are..depending on the situation show her how sorry you are. Give her a hug, she'll forgive you-eventually. If your not the reason she's crying be her shoulder to cry on, make her feel better, if it's over a stupid boy then tell her what he's missing, make her feel spectacular.

When a girl asks you if another girl is hot, when she obviously is.
-This is kind of a low thing for a girl to do, because this screams danger to me. This is a huge trap...because if you don't go about this very carefully your going to get into a fight. This is what you need to do, you need to be honest, because if you say that she's not hot your gonna get in trouble for lying. So tell this girl that the hot girl is hot, and before she gets angry, you have to say something like "she's hot, but she's not beautiful" or something along those lines, you need to be honest but make the girl asking you the question seem better, because what she's really just kind of unsure how you see her. She wants to know that you still think she is the most beautiful thing to you.
**If you want anything else "translated" then let me know and I'll add it :)**





Other tips:

-Most girls don't like being called hot, we like being called beautiful, pretty, and gorgeous.
-If you think that we are beautiful, you should say so.
-Forehead kisses are simply the best.
-Hugs from behind are also the best.
-Don't be clingy, have a life of your own, but make her apart of that life.
-Remember things that we say and then show us somehow that you remember.
-For the love of god know her birthday, and any other important date, like the day you starting dating. (also, if your bad at remembering things, and you want to ask a girl out, do it on a day that's easy for you to remember, like the first day of a month or your favorite number of a certain month)
-Text her first. You aren't annoying her, she doesn't want to text you because she doesn't want you to think that she's annoying.
-Don't text her all the time, try calling her every now and then, even if it's only for a few minutes, it means a lot to her that you called. Even girls that say they love to text would love a phone call.
-Text her "Good morning" before she wakes up, and "Good night" before she goes to sleep.
-Don't be afraid to talk to us, especially if we started the conversation, we want to talk to you, so just talk back, and keep the conversation going.
-One word responses make us nervous
-Delayed responses also make us nervous
-If your dating a girl, and she finds "a song" for you two listen to it, and listen to the words because it's important to her.
-Don't call things stupid or boring when it comes to things that interest her, I'm sure she thinks things you do are stupid and boring too, but she doesn't say anything. If she does, still do not say that the things she likes are stupid or boring.
-If a girl is worried about something, talk to her about it, put yourself in her shoes as best as you can, and don't stop talking to her about it until she feels okay.
-If a girl brings something up more than once, she feels unfinished with the topic and didn't get what she was looking for the first time.
-Complements are a very good thing, don't give them all the time, but don't not give them. We don't want to drown in the complements, and when you do give one, make it sincere.
-Always be genuine and sincere.
-Girls are never as tough as they like to appear, we are much more fragile then what you think
-If there's a song that makes you think of us, tell us.
-Trust us, and we'll trust you until you give us a reason not to.
-Be a gentlemen, like hold the door for us and what not

Something to remember:
I know the list about seems like A LOT but all girls really want is to know that you think we're pretty, to love and to be loved. We just want to know that you care about us. And at the end of the day we want to know that you do truly care about us, no matter what.

Girls vs. Boys

I'm pretty sure everyone knows that girls and boys think totally differently.
Girls over think everything, and guys don't think enough. This is what makes girls think guys are confusing and guys think girls are confusing. Boys are so simple that girls don't understand it, and boys are so simple that they don't try to read into anything a girl says.

For example, if I tell a girl that I like apples, she will start thinking why might I like apples? Maybe It's because they taste good, maybe because of their color, maybe their texture, maybe because they're easy to eat. If I tell a boy that I like apples, that's all his going to hear, Haley likes apples, okay good, awesome.

I think this is where girls and boys have such a hard time in communicating...I'm not trying to say boys and girls just can not talk because people just don't understand this big difference. Some girls can talk to boys and some boys can talk to girls and its no problem. But some can't.

Girls and boys have a hard time communicating because boys will say things very upfront, simple, and fairly honest. Girls will say things honestly, but not simple or upfront because girls like saying one thing but meaning another. This makes it difficult for both parties, because the boys will only see what the girl says, and if they try to figure out what she's really saying then he might be wrong which causes more problems. And when boys are so honest and upfront, they don't always say what the girl hopes for. Or the girl will over think what he said and twist it into something that it's not (boys can do this too, but it's way more common for girls to do it).

So I have some advice...
Girls-try your best to just talk upfront with the boys, stop doing the puzzle thing if you can, just because the guys don't know what your really trying to say doesn't mean they don't care about you, it just means that they really just don't know what your trying to say. So tell them, upfront, and honestly. Boys really aren't as complicated as we like to think.
Boys-do your best when it comes to figuring out what we're really trying to say, maybe just asking the girl upfront would be a good idea because it's hard to say something in puzzle form when you ask something upfront. Don't be afraid to talk to us, we really aren't as complicated as you say. All a girl really wants is or someone to think she's pretty, and someone to love her. Of course every girl is different so...some things may vary but that's pretty much it.

Other

This blog isn't really a blog, this blog goes with the survey at the top of my site.

I want to hear your feedback, your likes and dislikes about what I've done so far..what you would maybe like to see?

Post a comment on this blog and let me know

thanks a bunch :)

Bitter Sweet

I think bittersweet is the only way to describe graduation day...bittersweet and pure joy.

I mean, you did it...your done, all your hard work finally paid off and all the people that care about you are there to witness this huge milestone in your life. This moment is truly sweet.

Graduation is such an emotional roller coaster, I can't speak from experience..seeing as how I haven't exactly graduated yet, but I did just witness one.

I got to graduation early, and I was sitting there thinking, I was thinking about how short highschool actually is, it never really hit me till then. I mean, I was at the graduation of my friends that I met..when they were where I am now. It feels like just yesterday I was worrying about the big scary highschool and now I'm a Junior, and highschool is currently the best time of my life. This thought led me to think about how much can change in a years time. A year ago, I didn't even know half the people that have impacted my life. I think this is truly amazing. This thought led me to think about how much I love my town. We really come together, and yeah...we do things that we don't always agree with, but in the end, we're there for each other. I think that is what matters most.

When I was sitting there at graduation I realized what is worth worrying about, and what isn't. For example, drama, stupid people that don't care about you...are not even worth a second of your time, because you should really spend that second with someone who does care about you...'cause one day you'll turn around and it'll be there turn to go into the world. I guess that's what's kind of bitter about graduation, the fact that people you care about so much, are leaving and they get to go out into the world and you're left behind to live your life without them. I mean, sure they're still in your life, but you don't get to see them all the time anymore. And that small change can make a big difference in a friendship.

I realized today that I need to only spend my time with people that I care about, and I need to forget about the ones that don't.

I'm so proud of all my friends that graduated today..and everyone else who I'm not friends with, I'm proud of them too. Congrats class of 2010, you guys did good, and I hope you guys realize how much your going to be missed, T-Burg is truly not going to be the same without you guys.

The Wonderful World of Relationships (sorry this is so long D: )

Why are relationships in Highschool such a cycle?

This is how a Highschool relationship works..

• you find someone
• you talk to them for a while
• you start liking each other
• you date...and the first about..4 months are amazing.
• then you break up because all of a sudden your "perfect relationship" is far from perfect.

Nothing can compare to the happiness one feels during the first 4 months of a relationship, and it's because the first 4 months is nothing but pure happiness. Your happy to finally be with the person that you've gotten to know, and to you they seem perfect. Are they perfect? No, not really...which you figure out when month number 5 rolls around...and I think that's the key to a relationship. The key to a relationship would be finding someone who appears perfect to you before you start dating them. Not getting excited and jumping into something that your going to end up regretting. Because that's what happens...you get excited because OH MY GOD somebody likes you! And all of their imperfect qualities, and sometimes major personality traits (that you would normally find annoying as hell) fade away.

I think this is what makes relationships so hard.

I mean...everyone wants somebody. Nobody wants to be alone, even if people like being single, they like the freedom, but I think if someone could have freedom in a relationship, they would take that over the plain freedom any day.

I think people have this huge desire get in the way of what they're trying to do. Because every time someone likes you, that's a window of opportunity for your desire to be fulfilled. So instead of truly getting to know someone you just kind of..half get to know them, and the half you know seems really nice, and better than the last. And then it turns out to be another mistake.

I don't know how it is with guys...but I know that with girls after a certain number of mistakes are made we get afraid of the next guy to start liking us, because then we start with the "What if"..What if he's just like the last? What if I get my heart broken?...What if this is different? What if he's better than the last? and then I think we get into things that we don't want to be into.

All everyone wants is that perfect someone. That's it! but it's so difficult because we let little things get in the way of it.

This is my advice:
Find someone that is perfect to you, even if they have some imperfect qualities, that aren't that big of a deal, I think that you should learn to love them because if you can find someone even close to perfect you need to hold onto them forever. Don't let little things get in the way of finding your perfect person. You need to find someone that can bring you up when your at your all time low, you need someone that thinks your all kinds of beautiful even tho you know you look like total shit. Is this easy to find? No way in hell. But I think this is what everyone needs...everyone needs someone that will always be there for them, they need someone that will always love them not matter what. I think that this is so hard to find because people set their standards high because they don't want to settle, but maybe it's not settling. Maybe there's a difference to settling and learning to love something you never thought you could. Maybe your perfect person is right in front of you, and you didn't realize it til now.

Leading and Following

I use to think that being lead on was the worst feeling--ever. Is it actually the worst feeling ever? No..I'm sure there are way worse feelings to feel, but being lead on is definitely up there. Another feeling that is on the list of "Worst Feelings Ever" would be the feeling of being the leader in the leading on, instead of the follower.

This is the first time this has ever happened to me, I'm normally the follower when it comes to being lead on, but not this time. And oh my god I feel like shit.

It's so crazy how different events in life can get you to look at something from a completely new angle.

For example, every time I got lead on, I hated the guy...immediately. And you know, he would always say that he was "sooooo sorry" and that he "didn't mean to" and I remember thinking, bullshit you didn't mean to, you knew what you were doing. But that was me, in the followers shoes. Now, I see that being in the leaders shoes, maybe, just maybe, those guys that said they were "soooo sorry" were actually sooo sorry, and maybe they really didn't mean to. I mean...sure maybe some of them weren't sorry, and maybe they did kinda mean to.

But that's not really the point..the point I'm trying to make is, it's crazy how your opinions change depending on your situation. I think it's totally reasonable for the followers to be really pissed off at the leaders, but don't get too upset...because I really don't think the leader was trying to hurt you on purpose...it's not like they were sitting in their room planning out how they were gonna hurt you. Maybe it was too much too fast, or maybe they were trying to figure out where their heads were, or maybe they were simply not thinking at all. Whatever the reason is...before you say things you don't mean, put yourself in their shoes, because I think once you do that, once you truly step into their shoes, you'll realize that they feel just as shitty as you do.

Because for the leading on to even occur they obviously had to care about you to some extent, and who would want to intentionally hurt a friend?...I'm pretty sure no one.

I can't speak for all the leaders that have ever lead anyone on before, but I think the worst thing about this is how helpless I feel, it's like...saying sorry really isn't enough, but there isn't another word that I'm currently aware of that would be able to really say how bad I feel, and then when you think telling them how bad you feel will maybe, somehow show them..it doesn't. They're still angry, and they should be, but it sucks because I have no way of communicating to you how bad I feel.

I know for a fact that I never, ever want(ed) to hurt any of my friends on purpose.
And I'm sorry.

Living Life In The Fast Lane

I went to the mall today with some of my friends that are graduating in 2 days, and on the way home I was thinking about goodbyes, and life in general.

I was thinking about how fast it goes, and how I need to enjoy my life for what it is right now, it sucks that a lot of my friends are leaving in a few months to go off to college, but I realized in the car ride home that I need to cherish the time that I have left with them and not worry about a year from now when they might have forgotten about me. Because that's what I keep worrying about, I'm so afraid that the people I care about most are going to forget about me, and I need to stop because if I keep worrying then I'll miss opportunities like the one today, I won't be paying attention to the moment because I'll be so hung up on the future.

I was also thinking about when I'm an old lady, not able to do much, I'm gonna be thinking about times like the one I was currently in...young, in a car, music blasting, wind in my hair, with not a care in the world.

I realized in the car today how much I love life, and how I need to live my life day to day and stop worrying about the future, because I don't know about you, but I don't want the future to mess with my plans today. I learned in the car today how thankful I was that I was with my friends, I was glad to be a dumb kid.

I think me realizing all of this today will make it easier for me, when I am a little old lady, it will make it easier because I realized at 16 that life is too short to be worrying about goodbyes, I realized today that life moves fast and it's hard to keep up with, sometimes you have to just take a second to look at everything, and be thankful for the life that you have.

Teenage Love

Teenage love is so complicated, I'm sick of adults telling me love doesn't exist at my age, shut up. It did when my grandparents were my age, it can still exist now.

Like...80% of the time its most likely bullshit, but that other 20% i think its pretty legit.

That's the other thing I don't like about love..I don't know how it is with guys, but I know that with girls its like..every relationship I consider, I always come to the "what if" question...you know..."what if we last" "what if we make it" "what if this time is different" "what if it's actually love"

I hate the what if. Like..what if this is just another mistake, what if he doesn't care as much as he says? It's interesting that those questions aren't asked more often..people are hell bent 6 ways about finding love and being happy. And when it comes to being happy they don't weigh the pros and cons evenly.