Here's a Little Heads Up

*As I think of things, or as you tell me things you'd like to know about I'll add them to this blog and re-post it. *


This kinda goes hand in hand with my last post "Girls vs. Boys". This is post is really just for guys, this is a little heads up on what a girl really wants (more or less). This is kind of like a translation dictionary of puzzle things that a girl might say, and I'll tell you what she might be trying to say.

***every girl is different, and all of this depends on the situation. Some of the things I'm saying would be a very bad idea. For example, if you just told a girl you cheated on her and she says tells you to stop talking to her and to leave her the hell alone, stop talking to her and leave her the hell alone. If you guys just got into a stupid fight, then read below***

When a girl says that she feels unloved and/or neglected.
-Then actually act like you give a shit. Here's a little heads up...it doesn't take much to make a girl feel loved, all you have to do is act like you actually care about her. Listen to what she has to say, keep the conversation going, text her every now and then and let her know that your thinking of her, or miss her, or love her. Make plans with her. And then try to keep at least some of these things up.

When a girl gets mad at you, and tells you to stop talking to her.
-Do not stop talking to her. She did just tell you to stop, but don't because this is probably just a test that your about to fail if you listen to her. What she really wants you to do is tell her that your sorry (whether it's your fault or not, say your sorry.) and she wants you to tell her how much you care about her. I'm not really sure how "stop talking to me" translates into this, but it does. Once you do this, I'm 90% sure that the fight will be over.

When a girl says "fine." or "I'm fine".
-She is not fine. She's nowhere close to being fine. Fine is one of the worst things she could say, when a girl says "fine." you did something to piss her off, whether its saying something she didn't like, or doing something that she didn't like you pissed her off, you should do something asap to make everything better. Ask her what's wrong. If she responds to that question with "I'm fine" she doesn't want to talk about then..maybe because other people are around, so ask her later. When it's just you and her and she says "I'm fine" maybe you should tell her that you know she's lying and ask her whats wrong.

When you ask a girl what's wrong and she says "nothing"
-She's Lying. Do not just move on in the conversation. Ask her what's really wrong because you know something is up. Be prepared for some BS answer when you ask her what really is wrong. She might be afraid to tell you what's really wrong, so be ready for anything. Show her that you care about what she has to say, and make sure you show her that you don't want her to be unhappy, be reassuring that what she has to say is important to you.

When a girl says that she "wants space".
-Space, is the last thing she wants. She may want space for like...30 seconds but as soon as you give her what she wants you are the only thing she is thinking about. This is just like the "don't talk to me." thing. It's a test. She wants you to say something witty, and charming, and she does not want space. If you do give her space then she's going to get mad at you for "ignoring her". I know that doesn't make sense but that's what is going to happen. You need to ask her what's wrong, tell her how much you care about, and maybe say something romantic :)


When a girl uses a period when it's not needed, and ends things very short. kind of. like. this.
-She's annoyed or upset, maybe she doesn't wanna talk. Handle this how you handled the "fine" situation and ask her what's wrong.

When a girl is crying
-You better not be the reason she's crying, but if you are..depending on the situation show her how sorry you are. Give her a hug, she'll forgive you-eventually. If your not the reason she's crying be her shoulder to cry on, make her feel better, if it's over a stupid boy then tell her what he's missing, make her feel spectacular.

When a girl asks you if another girl is hot, when she obviously is.
-This is kind of a low thing for a girl to do, because this screams danger to me. This is a huge trap...because if you don't go about this very carefully your going to get into a fight. This is what you need to do, you need to be honest, because if you say that she's not hot your gonna get in trouble for lying. So tell this girl that the hot girl is hot, and before she gets angry, you have to say something like "she's hot, but she's not beautiful" or something along those lines, you need to be honest but make the girl asking you the question seem better, because what she's really just kind of unsure how you see her. She wants to know that you still think she is the most beautiful thing to you.
**If you want anything else "translated" then let me know and I'll add it :)**





Other tips:

-Most girls don't like being called hot, we like being called beautiful, pretty, and gorgeous.
-If you think that we are beautiful, you should say so.
-Forehead kisses are simply the best.
-Hugs from behind are also the best.
-Don't be clingy, have a life of your own, but make her apart of that life.
-Remember things that we say and then show us somehow that you remember.
-For the love of god know her birthday, and any other important date, like the day you starting dating. (also, if your bad at remembering things, and you want to ask a girl out, do it on a day that's easy for you to remember, like the first day of a month or your favorite number of a certain month)
-Text her first. You aren't annoying her, she doesn't want to text you because she doesn't want you to think that she's annoying.
-Don't text her all the time, try calling her every now and then, even if it's only for a few minutes, it means a lot to her that you called. Even girls that say they love to text would love a phone call.
-Text her "Good morning" before she wakes up, and "Good night" before she goes to sleep.
-Don't be afraid to talk to us, especially if we started the conversation, we want to talk to you, so just talk back, and keep the conversation going.
-One word responses make us nervous
-Delayed responses also make us nervous
-If your dating a girl, and she finds "a song" for you two listen to it, and listen to the words because it's important to her.
-Don't call things stupid or boring when it comes to things that interest her, I'm sure she thinks things you do are stupid and boring too, but she doesn't say anything. If she does, still do not say that the things she likes are stupid or boring.
-If a girl is worried about something, talk to her about it, put yourself in her shoes as best as you can, and don't stop talking to her about it until she feels okay.
-If a girl brings something up more than once, she feels unfinished with the topic and didn't get what she was looking for the first time.
-Complements are a very good thing, don't give them all the time, but don't not give them. We don't want to drown in the complements, and when you do give one, make it sincere.
-Always be genuine and sincere.
-Girls are never as tough as they like to appear, we are much more fragile then what you think
-If there's a song that makes you think of us, tell us.
-Trust us, and we'll trust you until you give us a reason not to.
-Be a gentlemen, like hold the door for us and what not

Something to remember:
I know the list about seems like A LOT but all girls really want is to know that you think we're pretty, to love and to be loved. We just want to know that you care about us. And at the end of the day we want to know that you do truly care about us, no matter what.