Ah, the big leap out of the honeymoon stage. What a beautiful thing this is, except it isn't, at all. Most couples break up after 3-4 months because that's when the honeymoon stage is over...and if you make it past that point the next big break up happens around 8 months because the hormone produced in your brain to attract you to someone stops being produced. But I'm not really here to talk about what happens after 8 months. I'm here to talk about what happens after 3-4 months.
The problem with the honeymoon stage is how perfect it truly is. Your significant other is all of a sudden turned into the best damn thing you've ever seen. They do everything you've ever wanted a boyfriend/girlfriend to do. Then once 3-4 months rolls around a lot of it just kind of fades away almost...if they use to call you all the time, they might stop. If they use to call you beautiful all the time, that might stop too. This doesn't necessarily mean that they don't like you anymore...or that they're going to break up with you, maybe they're busy. Maybe they just don't want to call you every single night anymore, maybe they feel like they don't need to call you beautiful because they feel like you already know (which is stupid, but whatever.) it's not because they don't 'love' you anymore, it's because your relationship is moving into the next chapter.
Relationships are just a huge chapter book. You have the introduction, and then you have chapter one which is the cutesy stuff, then chapter two and three continue that. But in chapter four the story takes a slight turn and the person that your with stops appearing to be "perfect". They become to appear more like themselves, and I think that's why people break up here...because all of a sudden you learn what kind person the person that your with is. And some people don't like that. Chapters 5-8 are rediscovering that person, and if you make it through the big 8 then the way the story ends really depends on the people in the relationship. Maybe you'll hit the conclusion of the story, maybe your story will start and stop, or maybe you'll find your happy ending.
All I'm trying to say is, don't panic when your significant other changes after the honeymoon stage. I'm sure they still care about you, but they are going through the honeymoon stage change just like you. Just talk to the person your with. Communication is key. And if you have your doubts, just remember why your with them in the first place. Think about the butterflies you get when you see them. Don't give up on someone because of a new chapter.
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