Clumsy Change

First, I'll start off by saying how much I dislike drama. Even the sound of the word irritates me. Second, I'm lucky enough to say that I hardly ever have to deal with it. Third, I'll say that sometimes you have to get involved in things that you really hate for the people you care about. And that doesn't just mean stupid drama it could mean anything.

I think it's very interesting how nervous people get around "drama" some people don't even want to hear about the things going on because they "don't want to get involved". I understand that 110% but who does want to get involved with drama? Honestly, if you like drama...just, go away, go far far away. Because no one should like it, it's stressful. But people need to learn how to deal with it, even though it is stressful. Especially when it's between friends, that's the worst because two people who use to be super close now can't stand each other. Which is way more fine then what everyone makes it out to be. 

But how can it be okay that two "friends" hate each other?

People change, a lot. And people don't just change once, they change all the time. That's why it's so difficult to have a friendship for a long time...and when I say long time I'm not talking about a whole school year, I'm talking about years. Like 5 years, 10 years, 20 years. That's a long time. People are constantly changing throughout their whole life. We're always changing because things are always happening to us, if a good thing happens then maybe we get a little better, if a bad thing happens maybe we get a little worse. Sometimes big things happen and those things can really change a person. 

It sucks when people change, especially if you were close to the 'old' them. But you have to let them change, because your changing as well, so you just have to accept it.

Here's my analogy on the whole change thing:
Everyone is born in the same little shape, right into the same little mold, and we grow up, and get tossed into school. From elementary to middle school we all still have our molds on, so we're all the same still, we all fit into each others molds, and everything is perfect. Then at one point we all get tossed into highschool. Now, all of a sudden our molds get ripped off. Now all of a sudden we're expected to not all be the same, and we're heavily encouraged to become our own person. So now, all of us start stretching out a little bit, and we all become different...we all change. So now, the people that we thought we knew, we don't know anymore, so you meet new people that you will probably end up liking more than the people before. Just beware, because getting tossed into highschool is not the last time you stretch out and change. It happens when you graduate highschool, when you go to college, when  you graduate college, when you get married, when you have kids. And everywhere in between.

My point is, don't be jerks to the people who are trying to figure everything out. I'm sure they aren't doing it gracefully. I'm sure they will hurt people along the way. But it'll be your turn to figure everything out soon enough, and you'll be just as clumsy at it as the last person.