Ding Ding

Is it weird that fighting with ones I love doesn't bother me that much?

That half didn't come out as I meant it, because you probably think I'm some kind of crazy, I mean; who would enjoy fighting? Nobody. What I meant was...fighting and then being to able to make up with the ones I love makes me really happy.

Remember when in middle school whenever you would get into a fight with your significant other it was almost a sure sign for a break up? The fight could have been over something as useless as someone taking your pencil and then your significant other hearing about it and boom. No more relationship.

Well, I love the fact that I can get into a teeth grinding, wall punching, cursing your name, say things I don't mean, "I hate you" kind of fights and know as I'm fighting that eventually we will make up and everything will be okay again.

I mean, fighting in general isn't that bad of a thing...yes people get hurt emotionally most of the time because of the harsh things said. But those harsh things are normally said because your frustrated that you aren't getting your point across. Which is why the fight started in the first place...the fight started because something was said, and it bothered you. And instead of letting it go, you stood up for yourself and let the other person know that you have a problem with something.

I think that's really good with relationships because if you just go through the relationship without standing up for yourself or without bringing up things that bother you...the all the things that have ever bothered you during the relationship will eventually come up...instead of having an argument...you'll have yourself a war. You'll have a war because now instead of the fight being about one little thing it's about tons and tons of little things that actually end up equally about 6 nukes instead of a couple of grenades.

So...I guess this might sound a little weird, but I think I might be encouraging fighting. Or at least standing up for yourself and be vocal, let the other person know that something they do bothers you or they'll keep doing it because you never said anything.

And if this is a big boy and girl relationship then you will both make up and get over it and you'll learn. That's why I don't mind fighting, because once we make up it's kind of nice to know that we can fight about ridiculous things and call each other all sorts of things out of anger and still be together. It kinda makes me feel more secure in the relationship. So being in the fighting ring with you doesn't really bother me, cause once I hear that ding ding I know that we'll still be okay.