Comfort

I'm sick of putting myself out there just to get shut down.

I guess I'm not getting totally shut down, but I hate opening up to people completely and then getting nothing back. That totally sucks. Because when you open up to someone you naturally are hoping for them to open up a little bit in return and then when they just stay concealed your just left there standing alone, just you and all your personal fears or thoughts or feelings. And then the other person is just standing there all protected.

And the worst part of it is now the person that's standing there all protected has stuff against you. Now they know more about you then you know about them and know you are vulnerable.

I hate being vulnerable. I think everyone does...it's not a fun feeling. And this is why most people don't open up. But I feel like if someone opens up a little to you and shares their fears, and thoughts and feelings with you then the least you could do is share a little bit of yours. Because that way, no one would feel vulnerable because now you both know personal things about each other. It's a total win-win.

So...when someone is telling you about their fears, and thoughts and feelings. Don't just agree and act like you don't give a shit because even if you do we won't know because you don't act like you do. And what's the point of giving a shit if you don't even show the person that you care for them? You can't just keep those thoughts to yourself. Besides; I don't think people tell other people their problems just to be agreed with. People tell other people their problems because they want to be comforted. They want to know that their fears aren't anything to fear.

So comfort them! Don't make them more afraid then what they were before they started opening up to you.